By James Lee
I recently visited one of my company’s offices and witnessed a match consultant on the phone having a very difficult time. I found out that the person that had called was a female client’s mother. The mother had called to complain that the man the matchmaker had introduced to her daughter was not suitable. The matchmaker told me that the mother had already rejected many of the men previously selected as prospective mates, including highly educated and accomplished doctors and Ph. D holders.
I wondered how amazing her daughter must be for her to be so demanding. I found out that she was just from an ordinary family and went to a regular college.
The current situation for single men is often similar. There was a case of one man who always claimed that he would be satisfied with an average woman, but when he actually met a woman he became very picky and critical, complaining about minor flaws and focusing on the areas that did not match his standards. This man’s father was even pickier than his son. I thought it may be impossible to find this man a suitable spouse.
It is a common occurrence, and this is a problem. It is difficult for most people to view themselves objectively and they are quick to judge and find fault with others while overlooking their own shortcomings or less desirable qualities. As a result, people tend to think that they are superior to others or that someone doesn’t measure up to them or doesn’t deserve them.